Remembering that tomorrow is another day is a Smart Move. If it is a tough day or you are feeling overwhelmed reminding yourself that tomorrow is another day and that the future can be different increases your resilience
Why do we worry?
The main purpose of the brain is to keep you alive
and safe.
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It is always working to keep your body functioning.
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It is always on the alert to keep you from being harmed.
Therefore, the brain can skew our thoughts toward pessimism and worrying about the worst that can happen.
Back when we were dodging dinosaurs and sabre tooth tigers this was really
helpful. But today if left unchecked it can cause
us difficulties.
There are two types of worry, use our worksheet to identify and and deal with worries
So instead of telling ourselves off for worrying, we can thank our brains for trying protecting us.
Then work through these Worry Buster Questions. You might find it best to write our your answers
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What is the worry
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What is the worst possible outcome?
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Can I accept the worst possible outcome should that occur?
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What steps and action can I put in place to prevent the worst from occurring?
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What do I want to happen instead?
Next try to find a different perspective:
Asking yourself what is most likely to happen and is it possible that this could lead to something good?
'Worry is negative imagination'
Can you name one worry that got better by worrying about it?
Think back to a year ago and some of your worries ….
Do they seem important now?
Did they come true?
Pick a worry and spend time imagining a positive outcome AND
work out the action steps that will take you to that outcome
Pick one what you can control and think less about what you have no control to change.
Students say: ' We worry a lot about not passing exams; but then we procrastinate and avoid doing the things that would make us feel more confident.'
Be Kinder to yourself
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Forgive yourself for worrying. (Everyone worries in their own way.)
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Relax. Find gentler ways to talk to yourself.
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Trust that things will work out, (because they often do).
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Ask yourself, "What would I do differently if I knew the solution would appear easily?"
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Become aware of what helps the worrying grip on your brain fade back and do more of it.
Write yourself a letter
with compassion